The Power of Attorney.

The rule of the thumb is, that if you know what it is, you can grant it.This had to be done in a solicitor's office.I found a local firm specialising in family law.The first day my husband was in one of his good moods, we went. Do you know what the power of attorney is, asked the female solicitor my husband. Yes.It is when you give the power to someone to do everything for you. He knows what it is, but because he has dementia,it would not be acceptable,said the lawyer. This did not make any sense to me, I should have argued but to my great shame and regret,I did not.She was a solicitor,she knew best,I convinced myself. So a nightmare of gargantuan proportions had begun. Nightmare,as I came to realize, would only end if my husband dies.Or if I die. Two or three months after the first visit the the solicitor's office ,

the lady,a partner in the firm,had retired and went to live in Spain. My case was taken over by a young man

barely out of school. He could not find any paperwork, he was not familiar with the law.Having already paid the woman a substantial amount of money, if I changed the lawyer I would lose everything.And would anyone else be any better? I stayed.